On judging others
What does judging others do for us?
It validates our sense of importance. It reaffirms the ways we are right and others are wrong. It breeds moral superiority.
Those are things we want others to acknowledge and respect us for.
The problem is that, like every bad fuel, the longer we use it, the longer the residue hurts.
Think of it this way: each time you judge others, you send a toxic signal into the world. But that’s not the problem. The problem is that those toxins get stored up within your system.
It’s like feeding on poison and using the rest to build a fence around you. All while complaining that the people that matter to you aren’t coming any closer.
‘We listen, we don’t judge’ isn’t just a cultural statement. It can mean more, only when we live by it.
Being non-judgmental isn’t something you do for others. It’s a selfish thing you do for yourself.
You benefit. So do others.