Can I rely on you?
Can I rely on you?
To do what you say you will do, when you say you would? And when you can't, to be generous in stating this and what you'll do about it?
To rise to the occasion when the situation demands it?1
To improve yourself, in areas you are lacking? Or build structures to support you so we don’t all suffer the consequences of your weakness?
To not multiply the problems we bring to your attention?
To take responsibility for your work, for your words, for your actions?
To contain yourself, to know what to share and what not to? That includes the things you know because of our relationship.
To be in my corner and help me win both now and later? To help me see when winning now is at the expense of winning later.
To tell me the truth as you see it? To realise that there is no point in being other than honest with me?
To speak from your heart, not your ego, each time you speak your truth?
To be silent when that's the best thing for us?
To be open about the lines you don’t want crossed, and the boundaries you want me to respect, and gently nudge me when that line is being crossed?
To hold me responsible and absolve me of responsibility when I apologize? And nudge me take the same approach when you apologize?
To remember how loved you are - even when it doesn’t look that way?
That’s one of the questions the relationships in our lives ask of us.
Can I rely on you right now ?2
You are capable.
No is also an answer.