Subject of the matter

Mr. A: “The shoes are too small for your feet”

Mr. B: “Your feet are too big for the shoes”

In both instances, they are describing reality.

In both instances, the responsibility for interpreting reality is on both parties.

Only in one instance is the interpretation both useful and enabling¹.

We can always choose to interpret reality in ways that nourish us, and those we interact with.

1. Mr. A reminds us that we only need to change the shoes. Mr. B thinks your feet are to be blamed.